Six facts you should know to empower your teaching. - By Emmanuel SEGUI
As parents and teachers, we need to enhance our abilities to create a relationship
of trust with the students or the children we interact with.
The task sometimes seems hard and we often feel discouraged. Fortunately, there
is hope with the vision that both teachers and children can discover the joy of
Empowering children with self confidence and strengthening your capabilities
to teach will become second hand as you integrate the following six principles or
beliefs. It`s a sure deal.
1. The map is not the territory
Wherever you travel and whenever you use a map, you know that this map doesn`t
show exactly the whole territory. Some things are just not included on the map.
In the same way, our view of the world doesn`t show the complete reality. When children,
as well as each one of us, experience the world we give it meaning, which is often
distorted. This fact help us understand that we need to listen to better understand
children`s interpretation of the world and thus help them grow in their view of
the world, not our own, which is also only a map.
2. Every behavior has a positive intention
Children sometimes show strange, unexpected behavior but we have to remember
that their behavior is totally congruent to them at the present time. It is their
best choice available according to their current map of the world. Their behavior
always has an intention and this intention serves them, otherwise why would they
do it. Although we must remember that the positive intention does not always manifest
itself the way we would like it to. What we need to do is find and understand it,
while respecting the child we`re teaching or raising.
3. There is no failure only feedback
Teachers and parents often don`t know how to handle failure. Bad grades should
never mean bad child. It only means: "What can I do better as a teacher/parent to
help the child realize that his failure is an opportunity to go forward, build his
own character and build the one characteristic necessary to become a successful
4. You cannot not communicate
You don`t only communicate with language but by your behavior, your posture and
your voice? Each one of your movements convey a message. Children are more aware
of these messages than you think and they give meaning to them. A single look could
mean: "you`re a bad boy", or "I love you". Beware of all the messages you convey
because you cannot not communicate.
5. Everyone has all the resources to succeed in learning.
Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Leonardo de Vinci, Pablo Picasso had two things
in common. They had learning disabilities and they were geniuses. In spite of their
problems, they used all the resources they need to realize their dreams, to learn
and achieve. Being aware that every child has all the resources he needs to succeed
will allow us to love him or her so much better. The more you love a child, the
more you will help him realize his potential.
6. Actions are not the person
The student or child you`re dealing with is unique and the personal worth of
the individual is held constant. But naturally, children`s behavior is sometimes
questionable. This is when we must distinguish between "You`re stupid" and "what
you`ve just done is stupid". Learn how to make the difference between behavior and
identity. Let this principle be reflected in your language.
I`ve made these principles mine and I`ve seen many changes in my life and in
others. Do the same thing with the children you raise or teach. I can promise you
that you`ll see things that you`ve never seen before.
Author of "Moving
from Vision to Action"
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TURN OFF THE MEDIA VIOLENCE - by Ranny Levy, Coalition for Quality Children`s
If a stranger came to your door and said, "Hello, I`d like to come in.
I promise to keep your kids entertained and while I`m doing that I`m going to show
them graphic pictures of violence and murder and rape." What would you do? Would
you open the door and say, "Great, come on it. Hey kids, here`s Mr. Sleeze "
What`s the difference between this scenario and television? In this terrible
time our children, and we have been bombarded with scenes of the results of vicious
violence. The pictures of buildings blowing up and falling down were not, unfortunately,
new as children who watch a lot of television and films may easily witness such
terrifying sites. The attack on the World Trade Center took place exactly one year
to the day of the FTC Report against the marketing of violent entertainment to children
and not one significant thing has been done about it. Without current movie rating
system, acts of violence are often considered acceptable for all ages. As part of
healing our children it is time to cease stop giving them role models showing violence
as an acceptable way to solve problems.
The YWCA began a program several years ago called ?A Week Without Violence.`
I`d like to suggest a program for families called "Turn Off the Media Violence."
Let`s stop a moment to think about the impact of what kids watch - on television,
in the movies, and in video games. In the aftermath of the horrible World Trade
Center tragedy, I`ve been reflecting about stories I`ve heard: how a four-year-old
cheered when he watched the repeated footage of the World Trade Center attack and
how a seven-year-old tole his schoolmates, "It`s okay, it`s only tv," I know it`s
time for us to step up our actions and become more vigilant in tuning in to what
our kids are watching, what role models they`re following, what behaviors they`re
Many of us forget the enormous impact that television has on children. Do you
realize that the average American child will watch over 15,000 hours of television
during his or her school age years and while spending only 11,000 hours in the classroom?
Do you realize that during that time this child will watch more than 200,000 acts
of violence, including over 15,000 murders! What impact do you think watching 15,000
murders makes on a child between the ages of 5 and 18? The recent violence in schools
has increased parental concern about their children`s safety and they are examining
the causes of violence. Television is implicated repeatedly for its role in modeling
negative behaviors. As we ask ourselves what to do, how to make a difference, let
me suggest that you begin making a difference in your own homes and in your own
communities. Here`s a short list of suggestions that will help you Turn Off the
1. TURN OFF VIOLENT TV PROGRAMS. Many parents feel they can`t say no to their
kids. When your kids want to watch a program that you find is full of violent, racist,
or other unsavory programming, tell them that they can`t watch it. This is good
parenting and sometimes it requires a little "touch love" thrown in.
2. Establish clear ground rules. For example, be sure to check the ratings of
TV programs, videos, video games and movies before telling your children they can
watch them. Be aware that recent studies of the MPAA (feature film rater) and RSAB
(video game rater) have shown that more than half the programs they rated for a
general (G) audience were unsuitable for children under the age of 7. KIDS FIRST!,
a project of the Coalition for Quality Children`s Media, evaluates and endorses
videotapes that are otherwise un-rated. You may find their ratings on the KIDS FIRST!
web site (www.kidsfirstinternet.org).
3. Don`t put TV sets in your children`s bedrooms. Studies show that kids with
televisions in their rooms watch more than those that don`t and it diminishes a
parent`s ability to monitor either the shows watched or the amount of time watched.
4. Don`t watch violent programming yourself during times when your kids are around.
Remember, you`re their role model, when you say one thing and do another, you`re
giving them mixed messages.
5. Become critical viewers. Teach your children to become selective in choosing
good programming. KIDS FIRST! trains adults to become facilitators for a media literacy
club, known as the Junior Film Critics Clubs for kids between the ages of 8 and
13. For more information, visit their web site, www.kidsfirstinternet.org.
6. Don`t throw out the baby with the bath water. Remember, there are good programs
for kids and good programs have shown to benefit children in many ways: increasing
their cognitive skills, their interpersonal behavioral skills, their career aspirations
and their understanding and appreciate of other people and cultures. As Dr. Ed Palmer,
former VP of Research at Children`s Television Workshop noted: "viewing one hour
of good programming a day between the ages of 2 and 12 is the equivalent of two
full years in school."
7. Watch together. This enables you to be aware of the things your kids are experiencing
and the messages they are hearing and seeing. In the early years of television,
viewing was a family activity. Look for programs you can watch together with your
child and talk about the shows afterwards. Even when you do watch something that
you don`t like, turn it into a positive experience by discussing it with your child.
Make it fun though, it`s not a homework assignment.
8. Be an active consumer. If a program violates your values, write to the sponsor,
to the network, to your local network affiliate. Let them know that you`re not watching
it and why. So few people take time to write letters today that your letter is considered
to represent 15,000 people. Let the people responsible for putting this program
on the air that you`re upset about the program and why.
9. Make a commitment to change. It`s hard to change old habits but it`s worth
it. The morals and values we teach our children today determine what kind of adult
they become in the future. There`s a wonderful saying the National Association of
Family and Community Educators use: ?If you want to change the world, raise a child.`
We don`t need an act of Congress to tell us what to do. We don`t need censorship.
We are intelligent, thoughtful human beings as well as parents and grand parents.
It`s time to stop talking about our discontent with the media and to demonstrate
our effectiveness as a parent.
Ranny Levy is the president of
the not for profit organization, the Coalition for Quality Children`s Media, a national,
ten-year-old organization dedicated to promoting quality media for children and
to teaching children critical viewing skills. Ms. Levy is the parent of two grown
children and one grandson. She is a frequent speaker on media literacy and a proponent
for pro-social media.
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