Your Child?s Self-Esteem is in The Cards - By Susan Howson
Research has shown that the present generation of children worldwide is
demonstrating more social-emotional challenges (from low self-esteem to depression)
than ever before. Families, schools, recreation programs etc. are recognizing that
it is critical our children be taught positive values like caring about others and
oneself, behaving responsibly, recognizing and managing emotions and developing
Parents can use a variety of tools, such as affirmation cards, to encourage their
children to believe in themselves, in their dreams and in their own personal power
while also promoting positive values such as honesty, responsibility, compassion
and respect. This results in the children, as well as parents, connecting to their
true being - their Magnificence within, and the feeling of empowerment to bring
about positive changes in themselves, the community and the world.
Research indicates that children who have more positive values, self-esteem,
do better in the classroom and are more successful academically. That is why affirmation
cards are being used more and more in classrooms around the world. Teachers are
using the cards to teach positive values and virtues throughout the curriculum.
When children feel good and secure in themselves, they are more willing to work
towards reaching their fullest potential. Teachers are also finding that using these
in their classrooms has made a positive difference in the relationships amongst
Children who use positive self-talk messages develop respect and confidence for
themselves. These positive values help the child faced with a Bully situation. Armed
with a positive sense of self, the child is more likely to see the reason for the
bullying as outside themselves rather than their fault. The child realizes that
the problem is with the bully and so is able to maintain their self worth. They
are also more likely to support others that are bullied and not just stand by and
watch it happen.
Manifest your Magnificence, a set of 64 affirmation cards, was specifically designed
to teach positive values and nurture a child?s self-esteem. The cards are focused
on bringing together the child?s mind and heart for in doing so we arm children
with the values and virtues that will guide them to becoming more productive, fulfilled
and successful adults.
Manifest Your Magnificence cards can be used in many ways to motivate and remind
children that they are Magnificent Creations. A card can be pulled in the morning
to set an intention for the day and also facilitate discussion at dinner or before
bed. Parents and children can also go through the deck and pick out those they know
they are, one?s they think they are and one?s they aren?t quite sure they are. This
provides great insight into how a child/parent feels about themselves as well as
how they feel about their parent/child.
Teachers can use the cards to teach a particular value, e.g. I AM Conscientious;
I always do what I know is right. For instance, one class, after discussing how
children could be more conscientious during environmental week, decided to go around
the school periodically and clean the playground. There are many ideas and examples
of how you can use the ?Manifest Your Magnificence? cards in schools, recreation
programs etc. to explore, unfold, teach and reinforce positive values. For example:
I SET MY INTENTION
Have students pick a card
Have student read what is on card loud and clearly to class
Have student state one way they will demonstrate what is on card today
Give student applause (we all like to be acknowledged)
Before students leave, have them share an example of how they demonstrated value
Give student applause
DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?
Have students pick 5 values (can be any number of values)
Have students write, draw about what they do to show that value. Make sure no
one else sees their sheet and that they put their names on the sheet.
Teacher collects the sheets
Teacher picks a sheet and reads what is on it
Students guess who wrote, drew what was on the page
I AM VALUE CHART
Pick a value you want the class to work on for the day/week
Make a chart that graphs the number of times each student demonstrates the value.
Encourage students to be ?Value Beacons?, identifying other students who ARE
demonstrating the value
I AM THE WORLD!
Pick a value card
Take a walk with students
Explore environment of class, school, home, community, and world
Discuss what students see, experience in the class, their environment, world
that demonstrates or doesn?t demonstrate the value chosen
Discuss what values, other than the one chosen, do they see or not see
Have students write a positive I AM statement for themselves, the class, their
environment, the world
Post values around room.
Opening words of the United Nations? Declaration of the Rights of the Child:
?Mankind owes to the Child the Best that it has to give??
So take a positive step forward to helping children connect with their true being
and Manifest their Magnificence in the world!
Susan Howson is
the creator of Manifest Your MagnificenceTM, a unique gift set of 64 affirmation
cards designed specifically to nurture a child?s self-esteem at home or in the classroom.
Beautifully illustrated and written, each affirmation card carries a powerful message
that when read repeatedly, connects each child to their true being. An early childhood
expert, university professor and certified co-active life coach, she received in
2000 the "Award of Excellence for Humanitarian Effort" for her work in Bosnia. Her
website is www.magnificentcreations.com.
What Parents Can Teach Their Children About Money - By James Allan
"It Takes A Minute to Borrow Money, But a Lifetime to Pay It Back: Common
Sense Lessons For Parents To Teach Their Young Adult Children"
Parents want their children to have their best chance at success. They want their
children to be schooled in every aspect of adulthood. According to a 2003 survey
by VISA USA, 99% of adults believe children should learn the basics of money management
before they graduate high school. Meanwhile, according to the same survey, 77% of
adults state that children are learning money management skills in the ?school of
This shouldn?t be too surprising. A 2000 study by Charles Schwab found that the
average parent would rather speak to their child about drugs, than about money.
What are the results of all the hush-hush? Today?s young people are left in the
dark. Despite the world?s instability, those in the 18-25 year old group are, as
always, the most optimistic. The world is their oyster. Unlike their parents however,
young adults are now able to borrow money to fuel their optimistic desires. So,
it?s more important now than ever that young people are taught money management
skills, and who better to teach them than their parents?
To help your young adult child get started on a path to financial success, allowing
you the freedom to achieve your financial goals, James Allan, author of Street Hockey
Millionaire, has these tips for parents of young adult children:
1. Dedicate time to discuss money management with your child. Success often comes
from setting deadlines, and time is more valuable for most people than money. Getting
your child to agree to meet with you is a small step towards setting them on the
path of financial awareness. Skip this step and you could be left waiting to begin
the discussion until next week?which becomes next month?which becomes next year.
2. Teach them about goals. As optimistic young adults, your children are ready
to embark on their dreams. Tell your children how focusing their efforts on accomplishing
certain objectives will help them succeed quicker than scattering their efforts
all over the place. Demonstrate how goals should align with values to give their
child the most bang for the buck. Explain that you can have anything you want, but
you can?t have everything. Show them how you?ve taken small steps to achieve great
things in your life.
3. Help your child make the expectations realistic. Show them how your salary
and net worth have increased over the years to get to the point you?re at. Compare
your child?s goals for turning 30, 40, etc. with your life experiences. Share your
successes and failures with them.
4. Teach them good financial habits. Show them how to budget. Young people enjoy
more opportunities to spend money than ever before. Teaching them how to put aside
money for what?s important and ignoring what?s not is a great learning tool. Monitoring
their spending and their income will also help them in the long run. It?s amazing
how little things add up. A proper budget only works if you know where the money?s
going, and there?s no way to analyze the numbers if you don?t know how accurate
5. Encourage your children to save money. With credit easy to get, and marketing
magicians showing good reasons to buy everything, it?s more important now than ever
to instill in your children the importance of spending less than they earn. A great
way to get them started is to reward them for saving. For example, give them $50
for every $100 they save during their first year of work.
6. Teach them the time value of saving money. Show them how compound interest
works. Explain how 72 is the magic number to get your money to double. (that is,
your principal will double when the number of years you collect interest multiplied
by the interest rate you?re collecting equals 72. eg. your money will double in
8 years if you?re collecting 9 %, since 8 multiplied by 9 equals 72)
7. Teach your children how to have their money work for them. Show them how their
savings can multiply by investing in companies, or real estate, or by starting a
8. Teach them how borrowing works. Show them a typical loan payout for a 5-year
loan. People are usually surprised to find out that the payment is mainly applied
to the interest at the beginning of the term, and mainly to the principal at the
end of the term. Explain to them the different interest rates they would have to
pay for a car loan, a mortgage, a consolidation loan or a credit card. Show how
paying the minimum monthly payment on a credit card will lead to never having the
card paid off.
9. Teach your children about insurance. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound
of cure. Young adults usually feel invincible. Once they start collecting assets
and property, it is a good idea to insure their belongings, especially if they have
10. Be a good example. People learn from watching their parents. You can tell
them again and again how to manage money properly, but they will learn much better
if they can watch you do it. Young adults don?t appreciate it now, but in 10 or
15 years, they?ll be turning into their parents.
Often the teacher gets as much out of a lesson as the intended student. Make
sure you listen to your child?s concerns, as emphatically as you attempt to stress
your points. Learning is often a two-way street.
Many parents see teaching their children about money as a harrowing thought.
?Don?t be afraid to make mistakes,? says Mr. Allan. After all, the biggest mistake
of all would be to not discuss money at all with your children.
James Allan is a writer and speaker
living in Ottawa, Canada. His first book, "Street Hockey Millionaire", has sold
internationally to rave reviews. Thousands of book buyers and hundreds of seminar
participants discovered last year how to "Score Their Financial Goals". Find out
more at www.streethockeymillionaire.com.
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