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Using Feng Shui for Better Behaved Children - By Kathryn Weber

 

Is your son or daughter not as respectful and courteous as you would like? Maybe you?d like to instill more discipline in your child. Wouldn?t it be wonderful if you could influence better behavior from your child just by making simple decorative changes in his or her room? You can with feng shui.

Often referred to as the Chinese art of placement, feng shui is probably more correctly called the Chinese art of alignment. That?s because if a space is aligned properly, the residents in that space function better. Metaphorically speaking, feng shui is to a house what acupuncture is to a body. When correctly applied, feng shui is a tool that can correct problem areas, such as ill health, strained relationships, or difficulties with children.

If you?d like your child to exhibit more respectfulness, obedience, and self-control, it might be worth it to try some feng shui in the child?s bedroom. In addition to these qualities, feng shui will also help you establish your role in the household hierarchy. That?s because it?s important for children to know who?s in charge. But don?t mistake being the household authority with being authoritarian. Children like friends, but they need parents.

Try these easy-to-do tips in your child?s room. Although these aren?t all the feng shui tips for children?s rooms, they are some of the most important for creating better behaved children. Just the simple act of applying time and energy in your child?s room will affirm to your child how important he or she is to you, and that may be all it takes to make a happier, more respectful child.

?Make the child responsible for the room.

Children?s respect for others begins with having respect for themselves and their rooms. Insist they keep their rooms tidy and their beds made by assigning a specified time each day or week for the child to clean the room.

?Clear away excess.

Clutter-filled rooms detract from a child?s focus, and this can undermine obedience. Throw out all unnecessary or seldom-used items. Also, make sure there is nothing stored under the bed.

?Arrange the bed correctly.

Make sure the child can see the door of the bedroom easily. Avoid placing the bed against a shared wall of a bathroom, or under a window, having the child view stairs or a bathroom from the bed.

?Create a study area.

It?s important that the child is focused on education, a critical factor in creating respect for authority and learning self-discipline. Add a lamp here and a small globe. Both symbolically impart the importance of education.

?Make a ?Wall of Fame.?

Every child needs to feel proud. Designate a wall preferably the South wall) where certificates, drawings, awards, trophies, and photographs of the child are placed.

?Ground the child.

Is the child too overly active to pay attention? Many children such as this are in white rooms. White is a ?yang,? or energizing, color. Paint the child?s room an ?earth? color, such as beige, brown, or green.

?Establish the parental presence.

A wonderful feng shui secret for establishing parental influence is to have a picture of the parent(s) in the child?s room. This is the subtle ? and best -- way to assert your authority.

?Censor wall hangings.

Images of death, violence, or ferocious animals have no place in a child?s room and should be removed immediately. A child cannot focus if he is scared ? even subconsciously. Also, be sure that the child?s bed is not reflected in any mirrors. It is actually best not to have mirrors in a bedroom at all.



Kathryn Weber is a certified Master Practitioner and publisher of The Red Lotus Letter, a FREE weekly feng shui ezine. Logon to www.redlotusletter.com to sign up. ? 2002, Kathryn Weber, www.redlotusletter.com. Reprints by permission with attribution provided.

Back to School Feng Shui - By Kathryn Weber

 

Every school year parents and students dutifully trudge through the malls in search of the perfect sneaker or the cool new outfit for the coming school year. However, it?s unlikely that the new shoe or shirt will benefit them at school like a new room arrangement. How so?

According to feng shui, a child?s room that is arranged well can positively impact study habits and create better grades.

Feng shui, the Chinese technique for design and arrangement, suggests that rooms that have good energy, or ?chi?, create happier, well-adjusted children. Feng shui theories believe that for a child?s room to have good ?chi,? the room must follow certain guidelines to be harmonious.

If so, the room will be restful, promote good relationships others and generate good self-esteem. Perhaps most importantly, harmonious children?s bedrooms encourage good study habits and promote greater success in school.

Follow these eight feng shui tips to help create a room that inspires your child to study more and to do better at school.

1. The room has a desk.

It sounds obvious, but many kids? only workspace is a bed, the bedroom floor, or the family dining table. Every child needs a suitable study area in the bedroom that includes a desk, chair, and a lamp. Children with study areas are more likely to study.

Better still, having a study area keeps all the school books and papers confined to the child?s room. Feng shui also teaches that it?s best for children to study facing the northeast, the direction of wisdom and learning.

2. Ground your kids.

Buy your kids a globe to promote interest in geography and to help ?ground? them and encourage them to study. Add a globe in the Northeast corner of the bedroom, if possible, as this enhances the wisdom corner.

3. Create an ?achievement area.?

Every child needs to have recognition for a job well done. A perfect way to gain this is to create an achievement area on the South wall of the bedroom.

According to feng shui, this is the recognition area and it is the perfect place to pin up awards, papers with good grades, letters of recommendation, ribbons or trophies. Hang a roomy bulletin board here to make an ?atta? boy? or ?atta? girl? spot in your child?s room!

4. Hang a crystal in the Northeast corner of the room.

Crystals are used to make computer chips go faster, so why not use them to make your child study better? Hang a crystal in the study location to create more ?study? chi and to help sharpen the child?s ability to ?process? or think!

5. Put your child in the command position.

Avoid having children face a wall when studying because this represents an obstacle. They should be able to when someone enters. Position the desk so that they can see the door.

6. Display maps and other educational artwork.

Maps are another way to ground and encourage educational pursuits. They encourage ?worldly? interest and curiosity and they make suitable images for a child?s room. Avoid scary creatures, pictures depicting violence, or sad or dark subjects.

7. Eliminate TV from the bedroom.

Sadly, too many of today?s children have TVs in their bedrooms. This is a feng shui no-no because it can make children much less likely to study and rest fully. If your child doesn?t study as much as you would like and has a TV in the bedroom, ask yourself what is more important: television or school?

8. Shells and fish are symbols of education.

Conch shells and koi or goldfish are excellent symbols of educational success. Place the conch shell in the Northeast corner of the bedroom. Or, hang a picture of koi or goldfish in the Northeast corner. It is not recommended to keep live fish in the bedroom as water in the bedroom is associated with loss.



Kathryn Weber is a certified master practitioner in classical feng shui and the publisher of The Red Lotus Letter a weekly feng shui E-Zine. She has been featured and quoted by publications and websites, including Seventeen Magazine, First for Women, Martial Arts Professional, the Indy Star Newspaper, Self-growth.com, and Transformations.com. Log on to http://www.redlotusletter.com to subscribe or to contact her about a personal consultation, speaking engagement, or workshop.

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