Using Feng Shui for Better Behaved Children - By Kathryn Weber
Is your son or daughter not as respectful and courteous as you would like? Maybe
you?d like to instill more discipline in your child. Wouldn?t it be wonderful if
you could influence better behavior from your child just by making simple decorative
changes in his or her room? You can with feng shui.
Often referred to as the Chinese art of placement, feng shui is probably more
correctly called the Chinese art of alignment. That?s because if a space is aligned
properly, the residents in that space function better. Metaphorically speaking,
feng shui is to a house what acupuncture is to a body. When correctly applied, feng
shui is a tool that can correct problem areas, such as ill health, strained relationships,
or difficulties with children.
If you?d like your child to exhibit more respectfulness, obedience, and self-control,
it might be worth it to try some feng shui in the child?s bedroom. In addition to
these qualities, feng shui will also help you establish your role in the household
hierarchy. That?s because it?s important for children to know who?s in charge. But
don?t mistake being the household authority with being authoritarian. Children like
friends, but they need parents.
Try these easy-to-do tips in your child?s room. Although these aren?t all the
feng shui tips for children?s rooms, they are some of the most important for creating
better behaved children. Just the simple act of applying time and energy in your
child?s room will affirm to your child how important he or she is to you, and that
may be all it takes to make a happier, more respectful child.
?Make the child responsible for the room.
Children?s respect for others begins with having respect for themselves and their
rooms. Insist they keep their rooms tidy and their beds made by assigning a specified
time each day or week for the child to clean the room.
?Clear away excess.
Clutter-filled rooms detract from a child?s focus, and this can undermine obedience.
Throw out all unnecessary or seldom-used items. Also, make sure there is nothing
stored under the bed.
?Arrange the bed correctly.
Make sure the child can see the door of the bedroom easily. Avoid placing the
bed against a shared wall of a bathroom, or under a window, having the child view
stairs or a bathroom from the bed.
?Create a study area.
It?s important that the child is focused on education, a critical factor in creating
respect for authority and learning self-discipline. Add a lamp here and a small
globe. Both symbolically impart the importance of education.
?Make a ?Wall of Fame.?
Every child needs to feel proud. Designate a wall preferably the South wall)
where certificates, drawings, awards, trophies, and photographs of the child are
?Ground the child.
Is the child too overly active to pay attention? Many children such as this are
in white rooms. White is a ?yang,? or energizing, color. Paint the child?s room
an ?earth? color, such as beige, brown, or green.
?Establish the parental presence.
A wonderful feng shui secret for establishing parental influence is to have a
picture of the parent(s) in the child?s room. This is the subtle ? and best -- way
to assert your authority.
?Censor wall hangings.
Images of death, violence, or ferocious animals have no place in a child?s room
and should be removed immediately. A child cannot focus if he is scared ? even subconsciously.
Also, be sure that the child?s bed is not reflected in any mirrors. It is actually
best not to have mirrors in a bedroom at all.
Kathryn Weber is a certified Master
Practitioner and publisher of The Red Lotus Letter, a FREE weekly feng shui ezine.
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Back to School Feng Shui - By Kathryn Weber
Every school year parents and students dutifully trudge through the malls
in search of the perfect sneaker or the cool new outfit for the coming school year.
However, it?s unlikely that the new shoe or shirt will benefit them at school like
a new room arrangement. How so?
According to feng shui, a child?s room that is arranged well can positively impact
study habits and create better grades.
Feng shui, the Chinese technique for design and arrangement, suggests that rooms
that have good energy, or ?chi?, create happier, well-adjusted children. Feng shui
theories believe that for a child?s room to have good ?chi,? the room must follow
certain guidelines to be harmonious.
If so, the room will be restful, promote good relationships others and generate
good self-esteem. Perhaps most importantly, harmonious children?s bedrooms encourage
good study habits and promote greater success in school.
Follow these eight feng shui tips to help create a room that inspires your child
to study more and to do better at school.
1. The room has a desk.
It sounds obvious, but many kids? only workspace is a bed, the bedroom floor,
or the family dining table. Every child needs a suitable study area in the bedroom
that includes a desk, chair, and a lamp. Children with study areas are more likely
Better still, having a study area keeps all the school books and papers confined
to the child?s room. Feng shui also teaches that it?s best for children to study
facing the northeast, the direction of wisdom and learning.
2. Ground your kids.
Buy your kids a globe to promote interest in geography and to help ?ground? them
and encourage them to study. Add a globe in the Northeast corner of the bedroom,
if possible, as this enhances the wisdom corner.
3. Create an ?achievement area.?
Every child needs to have recognition for a job well done. A perfect way to gain
this is to create an achievement area on the South wall of the bedroom.
According to feng shui, this is the recognition area and it is the perfect place
to pin up awards, papers with good grades, letters of recommendation, ribbons or
trophies. Hang a roomy bulletin board here to make an ?atta? boy? or ?atta? girl?
spot in your child?s room!
4. Hang a crystal in the Northeast corner of the room.
Crystals are used to make computer chips go faster, so why not use them to make
your child study better? Hang a crystal in the study location to create more ?study?
chi and to help sharpen the child?s ability to ?process? or think!
5. Put your child in the command position.
Avoid having children face a wall when studying because this represents an obstacle.
They should be able to when someone enters. Position the desk so that they can see
6. Display maps and other educational artwork.
Maps are another way to ground and encourage educational pursuits. They encourage
?worldly? interest and curiosity and they make suitable images for a child?s room.
Avoid scary creatures, pictures depicting violence, or sad or dark subjects.
7. Eliminate TV from the bedroom.
Sadly, too many of today?s children have TVs in their bedrooms. This is a feng
shui no-no because it can make children much less likely to study and rest fully.
If your child doesn?t study as much as you would like and has a TV in the bedroom,
ask yourself what is more important: television or school?
8. Shells and fish are symbols of education.
Conch shells and koi or goldfish are excellent symbols of educational success.
Place the conch shell in the Northeast corner of the bedroom. Or, hang a picture
of koi or goldfish in the Northeast corner. It is not recommended to keep live fish
in the bedroom as water in the bedroom is associated with loss.
Kathryn Weber is a certified master
practitioner in classical feng shui and the publisher of The Red Lotus Letter a
weekly feng shui E-Zine. She has been featured and quoted by publications and websites,
including Seventeen Magazine, First for Women, Martial Arts Professional, the Indy
Star Newspaper, Self-growth.com, and Transformations.com. Log on to
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