Children and Stress - By Laura Silva Quesada
As with most adults, any major change in a child`s life can be a cause of stress.
Yet, the child has little or no resources to handle the stress they are experiencing.
Events like the birth of a sibling or the parent`s divorcing can cause tremendous
stress. Stress can also be caused by a move to a new home, a death of a relative
or a pet, or illness. Violence, experienced on a first-hand basis, or a natural
disaster is extremely stressful. Sometimes, just hearing about such events or watching
them on TV can also produce stress and anxiety.
The same is true when children live with very strict parents who impose severe
and frequent punishments. Some children experience great stress when parents go
on a vacation or are hospitalized due to illness, and they are separated from the
parents for more than a few days.
Pressuring a child to succeed can also impose great stress on the child. Parents
need to be more aware not to create stress for children unconsciously by comparing
them to other kids, or siblings, or by pushing them to make high grades, attend
a top college, or be a star athlete.
Stress can also contribute to lowering a child`s attention, tolerance, and their
ability to think and learn. Resistance to separation from a parent is often a result.
Medical and nutritional causes must be ruled out before the child can be accurately
diagnosed as reacting to accumulated stress. Because a young child cannot always
clearly articulate what they are experiencing, we must rely and become very sensitive
to their actions and behaviors.
Signs of Stress
There is no way to prevent your child from experiencing stress. It is a natural
happening and in some cases can even have positive side effects. Even in the most
loving environment a child will experience anger, frustration, and conflicts. A
child cannot possibly understand the adult world, and so that leads to confusion,
misconceptions, and disappointments. All of which lead to stress.
- Impulsive behavior
- Being quiet and withdrawn
- Lack of appetite
- Sleep problems
- Academic problems
- Relationship problems
- Stomach aches
- Relapses in toilet habits
- Frequent illness
Children are very vulnerable and impressionable. They function mostly in an inductive
mode of thinking where they absorb information, thinking patterns, behaviors, beliefs,
programs and problem-solving abilities without questioning them. Information children
experience as they grow has the potential of being impressed deeply in their brain
and mind, and will determine much of how the rest of their lives will flow.
Children are remarkable in that they can often overcome stress through play,
fantasizing, laughter, crying, and a loving supportive environment where they are
unconditionally accepted. Parents can teach their children new resources to best
handle stressful situations; resources that can be reinforced positively through
time, and that the parents also abide by are learned quickly by children. Children
love to model their parents above all others.
What Parents Can Do
With your help, your child can learn to transform stress into motivation; and the
best kind of motivation is the one that comes from within. Parents can learn to
create an environment where their child can grow and thrive in a more resourceful
and less stressful manner. Allow for your child`s own internal motivation to guide
them so that they can learn to avoid "distress" and instead live with and manage
their stress effectively through time.
- Figure out the cause of the stress and discuss possible ways of handling
- Prepare your child for upcoming stressful events and possible ways of handling
- Teach your child new resources to handle stressful events.
- Teach your child resourceful thinking patterns.
- Help your child understand the concept of cause and effect.
- Teach your child to take responsibility for their own created outcomes and
discuss how to avoid them in the future.
- Teach your child to focus on solutions rather than on problems.
- Teach your child how to set goals and help them to manifest them.
- Reinforce your child`s positive behaviors, beliefs, and thoughts.
- Encourage fantasy play and role playing as a way to learn how to handle
stressful people, events, and/or situations.
- Accept what your child is going through and his feelings.
- Teach your child how to handle stress through paced breathing, imagery,
- Be patient.
- Love them unconditionally.
- Be a healthy and positive model for your child.
Copyright ? 2002-2004 MindBiz, LLC. All rights reserved.
Laura Silva Quesada is the daughter
of Jose Silva, founder of the original Silva Mind Control. She has authored the
book For Parents Only and guides people through the mental exercises in the tape
series on the Silva Method. She also is the star of The Silva Method in Action video
and more recently one of the authors of the Universal Mind Power audio tape program.
Today, Laura is responsible for the MindBiz, LLC Product Development and Communications.
She is involved in continuing research that unites the best and most useful of the
concepts behind our original Mind Development programs with the latest findings
from studies on the Human Mind, Intuition, Alternative Health Care, NLP, and Spirituality.
She acts as the communications point for our Client and Affiliate network and is
aggressively developing new and exciting programs for our Internet site and Product
To learn more, please visit: www.mindbiz.com
Nature, An ADHD Natural Treatment - By Jeannine Virtue
My mother?s warning; ?You are going to rot your brain out ? still rings
through my mind whenever I spend too much time in front of the television set.
I grew up in a time when mothers shooed their children out - rain, snow or shine
- to get a breath of fresh air. Our television set tuned in to only four or five
channels and those channels signed off at midnight.
It would be years before cable television, satellite dish, VCRs and Nintendo
would debut. Lazy summer days were spent riding bicycles for hours because there
wasn?t much of anything better to do.
This period of time was also a few decades before Ritalin and Attention Deficit
would become commonplace terms.
I have long believed that inactive hours spent indoors has contributed to the
increased incidence of Attention Deficit Disorder. A recent study, published in
the September 2004 issue of the ?American Journal of Public Health,? validates that
University of Illinois researchers studied nature as an ADHD natural treatment.
This study showed that children with ADHD benefit from time outdoors enjoying nature
with a significant reduction of ADHD symptoms.
Researchers of this nationwide recruited the parents of 322 boys and 84 girls,
all diagnosed with ADHD, through ads in major newspapers and the Internet. Participants,
ages 5 to18, spent time in a variety of settings which varied from big cities to
rural settings. Some activities were conducted indoors, others in outdoor places
without much greenery such as parking lots and downtown areas and other activities
were in "green" areas such as a tree-lined street, back yards or parks. The parents
were interviewed and asked to report how their children performed after participating
in a wide range of activities.
The researchers found that symptoms were reduced most in green outdoor settings,
even when the same activities were compared across different settings. Researchers
believe that simply incorporating nature into a child?s day could be widely effective
in reducing ADHD symptoms.
Based on the results of this ADHD natural treatment study, researchers recommend
that children with ADHD spend quality after-school hours and weekend time outdoors
Study authors Frances E. Kuo and Andrea Faber Taylor suggested that daily doses
of ``green time`` might supplement medications and behavioral approaches to ADHD
if clinical trials and additional research confirm the value of nature as a natural
treatment for ADHD.
The study findings indicate that exposure to ordinary natural settings in the
course of common after-school and weekend activities may be widely effective in
reducing attention deficit symptoms in children.
In each comparison (there were 56 in all), green outdoor activities received
more positive ratings over the activities taking place in other settings. In 54
of the 56, the difference was significant, signaling that the findings were consistent.
Researchers said that exposing ADHD children to nature is an affordable, healthy
method of controlling symptoms. Researchers also suggested that daily doses of "green
time" can supplement medications and other traditional treatments of ADHD.
Simply using nature may offer a way to help manage ADHD symptoms that is readily
available, doesn`t have any stigma associated with it, doesn`t cost anything, and
doesn`t have any side effects.
ADHD natural ?green? treatment has endless possibilities, many of which might
closely resemble childhoods from years long past.
Here are just a few ideas for increasing "green time":
_ Play in a green yard or ball field at recess and after school.
_ Take after-dinner walks.
_ Make a scarecrow.
_ Doing class work or homework outside or at a window with a relatively green
_ Build a birdhouse.
_ Grow an outdoor garden.
_ Bike, ski, sled, inline skate
_ Visit a nature center.
_ Choose a greener route for the walk to school.
_ Participate in local nature clean-ups.
_ Take up bird watching.
_ Star gaze.
Jeannine Virtue is a freelance
writer with a focus on issues relating to Attention Deficit Disorder. For research-based
information about Attention Deficit Disorder, practical tips to help parents survive
the task of raising Attention Deficit children and information about effective Ritalin
alternatives, please visit http://www.add-adhd-help-center.com.
Children articles index
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- laying Baby Computer Games ? The New Parent-Child Tradition? - By Emma
- Book Excerpt: Einstein Never Used Flash Cards - By Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, Ph
- Putting Fun Into Parenting - By David Stoepker, Psy.D., & Erin Brown Con
- Preparing Your Child for a High-Tech Future - By Sue Sato
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder - Predominantly Inattentive
- Abandonment - By Sonya Green
- Explaining Suicide to Children - by Tracy Pierson
- Our Children`s Needs - by Robert Elias Najemy
- How to Develop Self-Esteem in Children - By J. Bailey Molineux, Ph.D.
- Helping Children Overcome Stress and Fear - By Debbie Milam
- Do you Shout at YOUR children? - By James Middleton
- Book Excerpt: Helping Children with Autism Learn - By Bryna Siegel,
- SPEED SPELLING: Another way to use speed reading skills for "schoolwork&q
- Children and Stress - By Laura Silva Quesada
- Boundaries- Why Are They Needed? - by Derek Randel & Gail Randel M.D.
- Juggling Home
- Explaining World tragedy to Children - By Chick Moorman and Thomas Ha
- Children and Pessimism - By Carol Tuttle
- Loving Yourself, Loving Your Children - By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
- Social Manners for Children - By Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach
- The Sexual Abuse of Children - By J. Bailey Molineux
- A Few Simple Truths About ADHD and Stimulant Drugs - By Steve Edelman1,
- DYSLEXICS and A.D.D. KIDS BECOME GIFTED SPEED READERS - by George Stanc
- Using Feng Shui for Better Behaved Children - By Kathryn Weber
- Book Excerpt: Helping Children with Autism Learn - By Bryna Siegel,
- Five Keys to Raising Nonviolent Children - By Tammy Cox, LMSW
- The Best Way to Reduce Stress: Start Young - By Zach Brull
- Your Child?s Self-Esteem is in The Cards - By Susan Howson
- Calming Tips for Hyperactive Children - By Jeannine Virtue
- What is ADHD? - By Jeannine Virtue
- Talking to Your Children About Sex - By Jan Andersen
- How Our Children Really Learn And Why They Need To Play More And Memo
- HOW DO WE PROTECT OUR CHILDREN FROM PREDATORS? - By Linda J Alexander,
- Teach Children Positive Self-Image Through Fitness - By Lynn Bode
- No Invitation Needed -- Part 3 of 3 Sacred Children Series - By Skye T
- Helping Our Children Feel Good About Themselves - By Dr.Barbara Becker Hol
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- Divorce and Children: Things To Consider When You`re Staying Married
- Six facts you should know to empower your teaching. - By Emmanuel
- Are You in an Abusive Situation? - by Colin Gabriel Hatcher & Randall
- The Divorce Revolution Has Failed - By J. Bailey Molineux
- Is Your Child Well-Mannered? - By Mary Jesse
- Jesus` Birthday -- Part 2 of 3 Sacred Children Series - By Skye T
- Empty Nesters: What Should You Do Once the Children Leave? - By Mary Guar
- We should celebrate the diversity of children and adults - By Robyn M
- How to Cope with Back to School Stress - By Debbie Mandel
- HIS KIDS: BECOMING A W.O.W. STEPMOTHER - by Julie Donner Andersen
- ADD / ADHD Children : Being Your Child`s Best Friend - By Kate Hufst