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Children and Stress - By Laura Silva Quesada

As with most adults, any major change in a child`s life can be a cause of stress. Yet, the child has little or no resources to handle the stress they are experiencing. Events like the birth of a sibling or the parent`s divorcing can cause tremendous stress. Stress can also be caused by a move to a new home, a death of a relative or a pet, or illness. Violence, experienced on a first-hand basis, or a natural disaster is extremely stressful. Sometimes, just hearing about such events or watching them on TV can also produce stress and anxiety.

The same is true when children live with very strict parents who impose severe and frequent punishments. Some children experience great stress when parents go on a vacation or are hospitalized due to illness, and they are separated from the parents for more than a few days.

Pressuring a child to succeed can also impose great stress on the child. Parents need to be more aware not to create stress for children unconsciously by comparing them to other kids, or siblings, or by pushing them to make high grades, attend a top college, or be a star athlete.

Stress can also contribute to lowering a child`s attention, tolerance, and their ability to think and learn. Resistance to separation from a parent is often a result. Medical and nutritional causes must be ruled out before the child can be accurately diagnosed as reacting to accumulated stress. Because a young child cannot always clearly articulate what they are experiencing, we must rely and become very sensitive to their actions and behaviors.

Signs of Stress

  • Agitation
  • Impulsive behavior
  • Being quiet and withdrawn
  • Lack of appetite
  • Overeating
  • Sleep problems
  • Academic problems
  • Relationship problems
  • Nightmares
  • Bedwetting
  • Headaches
  • Stomach aches
  • Relapses in toilet habits
  • Frequent illness
There is no way to prevent your child from experiencing stress. It is a natural happening and in some cases can even have positive side effects. Even in the most loving environment a child will experience anger, frustration, and conflicts. A child cannot possibly understand the adult world, and so that leads to confusion, misconceptions, and disappointments. All of which lead to stress.

Children are very vulnerable and impressionable. They function mostly in an inductive mode of thinking where they absorb information, thinking patterns, behaviors, beliefs, programs and problem-solving abilities without questioning them. Information children experience as they grow has the potential of being impressed deeply in their brain and mind, and will determine much of how the rest of their lives will flow.

Children are remarkable in that they can often overcome stress through play, fantasizing, laughter, crying, and a loving supportive environment where they are unconditionally accepted. Parents can teach their children new resources to best handle stressful situations; resources that can be reinforced positively through time, and that the parents also abide by are learned quickly by children. Children love to model their parents above all others.

What Parents Can Do

  • Figure out the cause of the stress and discuss possible ways of handling it.
  • Prepare your child for upcoming stressful events and possible ways of handling it.
  • Teach your child new resources to handle stressful events.
  • Teach your child resourceful thinking patterns.
  • Help your child understand the concept of cause and effect.
  • Teach your child to take responsibility for their own created outcomes and discuss how to avoid them in the future.
  • Teach your child to focus on solutions rather than on problems.
  • Teach your child how to set goals and help them to manifest them.
  • Reinforce your child`s positive behaviors, beliefs, and thoughts.
  • Encourage fantasy play and role playing as a way to learn how to handle stressful people, events, and/or situations.
  • Accept what your child is going through and his feelings.
  • Teach your child how to handle stress through paced breathing, imagery, and relaxation.
  • Be patient.
  • Love them unconditionally.
  • Be a healthy and positive model for your child.
With your help, your child can learn to transform stress into motivation; and the best kind of motivation is the one that comes from within. Parents can learn to create an environment where their child can grow and thrive in a more resourceful and less stressful manner. Allow for your child`s own internal motivation to guide them so that they can learn to avoid "distress" and instead live with and manage their stress effectively through time.

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Laura Silva Quesada is the daughter of Jose Silva, founder of the original Silva Mind Control. She has authored the book For Parents Only and guides people through the mental exercises in the tape series on the Silva Method. She also is the star of The Silva Method in Action video and more recently one of the authors of the Universal Mind Power audio tape program. Today, Laura is responsible for the MindBiz, LLC Product Development and Communications. She is involved in continuing research that unites the best and most useful of the concepts behind our original Mind Development programs with the latest findings from studies on the Human Mind, Intuition, Alternative Health Care, NLP, and Spirituality. She acts as the communications point for our Client and Affiliate network and is aggressively developing new and exciting programs for our Internet site and Product Store.

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Nature, An ADHD Natural Treatment - By Jeannine Virtue


My mother?s warning; ?You are going to rot your brain out ? still rings through my mind whenever I spend too much time in front of the television set.

I grew up in a time when mothers shooed their children out - rain, snow or shine - to get a breath of fresh air. Our television set tuned in to only four or five channels and those channels signed off at midnight.

It would be years before cable television, satellite dish, VCRs and Nintendo would debut. Lazy summer days were spent riding bicycles for hours because there wasn?t much of anything better to do.

This period of time was also a few decades before Ritalin and Attention Deficit would become commonplace terms.

I have long believed that inactive hours spent indoors has contributed to the increased incidence of Attention Deficit Disorder. A recent study, published in the September 2004 issue of the ?American Journal of Public Health,? validates that believe.

University of Illinois researchers studied nature as an ADHD natural treatment. This study showed that children with ADHD benefit from time outdoors enjoying nature with a significant reduction of ADHD symptoms.

Researchers of this nationwide recruited the parents of 322 boys and 84 girls, all diagnosed with ADHD, through ads in major newspapers and the Internet. Participants, ages 5 to18, spent time in a variety of settings which varied from big cities to rural settings. Some activities were conducted indoors, others in outdoor places without much greenery such as parking lots and downtown areas and other activities were in "green" areas such as a tree-lined street, back yards or parks. The parents were interviewed and asked to report how their children performed after participating in a wide range of activities.

The researchers found that symptoms were reduced most in green outdoor settings, even when the same activities were compared across different settings. Researchers believe that simply incorporating nature into a child?s day could be widely effective in reducing ADHD symptoms.

Based on the results of this ADHD natural treatment study, researchers recommend that children with ADHD spend quality after-school hours and weekend time outdoors enjoying nature.

Study authors Frances E. Kuo and Andrea Faber Taylor suggested that daily doses of ``green time`` might supplement medications and behavioral approaches to ADHD if clinical trials and additional research confirm the value of nature as a natural treatment for ADHD.

The study findings indicate that exposure to ordinary natural settings in the course of common after-school and weekend activities may be widely effective in reducing attention deficit symptoms in children.

In each comparison (there were 56 in all), green outdoor activities received more positive ratings over the activities taking place in other settings. In 54 of the 56, the difference was significant, signaling that the findings were consistent.

Researchers said that exposing ADHD children to nature is an affordable, healthy method of controlling symptoms. Researchers also suggested that daily doses of "green time" can supplement medications and other traditional treatments of ADHD.

Simply using nature may offer a way to help manage ADHD symptoms that is readily available, doesn`t have any stigma associated with it, doesn`t cost anything, and doesn`t have any side effects.

ADHD natural ?green? treatment has endless possibilities, many of which might closely resemble childhoods from years long past.

Here are just a few ideas for increasing "green time":

_ Play in a green yard or ball field at recess and after school.

_ Take after-dinner walks.

_ Make a scarecrow.

_ Doing class work or homework outside or at a window with a relatively green view.

_ Build a birdhouse.

_ Grow an outdoor garden.

_ Bike, ski, sled, inline skate

_ Visit a nature center.

_ Choose a greener route for the walk to school.

_ Participate in local nature clean-ups.

_ Take up bird watching.

_ Star gaze.

Jeannine Virtue is a freelance writer with a focus on issues relating to Attention Deficit Disorder. For research-based information about Attention Deficit Disorder, practical tips to help parents survive the task of raising Attention Deficit children and information about effective Ritalin alternatives, please visit

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